I’m in my mid-50s, and one of the things I’m most thrilled about is that, especially in the realm of kink, I continue masturbating to imaginary men

Kevin was 18 , new to New York , and drunk on the D train when he realized he was gay.

He was embarrassed at a comedy group at NYU , and was embarrassed that night.

He had recently found out about prostate stimulation, and how it supposedly took orgasms to a whole new level.

He decided to get his first orgasm with a penis-shaped salad topping.

The cucumber adventure was one of the first of his lifetime of trials, errors, and triumphs around sex.

I think of that cashier when people judge me, poke fun at me, or try to shame me for being me.

He's a reminder that I don't have to wallow in shame and hurt when that happens.