How to do it: Is it OK to ask a friend to act as my beard so I don’t have to deal with the deluge of offers?

Being gay in Trump 's America , particularly this iteration of it, is hard enough.

Don't ask your friend to be your "beard" to accompany you to a family event.

Your request could be interpreted as insulting or burdensome, so be prepared for her to say no.

If she agrees to it, you should make the trip/experience as comfortable as possible.

Dear How to Do It: Try to see if you can find the joy in the psychological aspect of giving head.

Don’t be afraid to fantasize during the act if it gets you more into the mood.

Good oral tops will try to make their blower as comfortable as possible.