How to do it: Do you tell yourself you’re pretty when you masturbate?

Stoya and Rich are diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers.

Stoya: Do you tell yourself you’re pretty when you masturbate? Ask your partner if he’s more vocal and clear about his enjoyment of sex.

Dear How to Do It: Set and setting (that is, a good mindset and comfortable environment) are key.

You can't do anything your partner doesn't want, and you should create an atmosphere of open and honest communication.

Sex with someone you love can be an extension of your communication, so get the bedrock ready well before you go to bed and talk about it.