Dear Prudence: My brother sharply cut off my parents. How do I politely shut them down?

A friend of mine is getting married for the second time this summer .

She says her parents moved out of state to give her brother a fresh start when she was 15 .

Her brother sharply cut off her parents this winter .

She's been dodging their calls and texts, but they've escalated to mailing gifts, and pushing for a visit.

For wedding # 2 , I’m reluctant to buy a gift because I don’t know what she needs or wants now.

If she’s registered, it would be better to buy something you can afford from the registry.

If you are happy enough for her that you want to attend, you should be happy for her to give as generously.